Preparing Siblings for a New Baby

Talk about the new baby in positive, age-appropriate ways. Read books about becoming a big sib and get them in on prep—picking out clothes, "helping" set up the nursery. Little things make them feel part of it.

After the baby's here, give your older kid one-on-one time and small jobs (grabbing a diaper, singing to the baby) so they feel included. Expect some regression—toileting, sleep, maybe wanting a bottle again. It's usually temporary. Keep reminding them they're still so loved.

Jealousy or acting out? Address it with patience. A postpartum doula can hold the baby so you can focus on your big kid when they need you most. Worth it.

Before birth, talk through what will happen: where they'll stay, who'll care for them, when they'll meet the baby. A quick visit to the hospital or birth center can make it less mysterious.

A little gift "from the baby" to the big sibling can make the first meeting feel special. Let the older child hold or touch the baby (with supervision) when they're ready.

Carve out time every day for the older child without the baby. Even 10–15 minutes of focused attention can ease jealousy and show them they're still a big deal.

Answer their questions simply and honestly. "The baby's crying because they're hungry." "They need a lot of care right now, but I love you just as much." Simple and true.

Regression is normal. Your older kid might want a bottle again, have accidents, or need extra cuddles. Respond with patience—it usually passes as they adjust.

Model gentle touch and respect. Show them how to touch the baby softly and when to give space. Supervise until you're confident.

Your crew is going to do great together.