When to Call Your Doula: Before and During Labor

Most doulas love a heads-up when labor might be starting—even with those early, "is this real?" contractions. A quick call or text keeps them in the loop so they can be there when you need them.

Call when contractions are regular and building, when your water breaks, or when you're just not sure and want someone to talk it through. Seriously, it's better to "call too early" than to white-knuckle it alone. Your doula can help you figure out when to head in or when to rest at home.

Planned induction or cesarean? Confirm time and place with your doula ahead of time so they can show up for you.

Figure out how you'll communicate early—phone, text, or both. Some doulas prefer a text first so they can call back when they're free. Ask about their backup if they're with another family.

Early labor can go on for hours or even days. Your doula might suggest rest, hydration, light movement, or a check-in later. You don't need them at your house the second contractions start.

When in doubt, call. Doulas would way rather get a "false alarm" than have you at home alone and anxious. They can help you read the situation and decide when it's time to go.

Home birth? Your doula and midwife will have a plan for when they'll come. Birth center or hospital? Same idea—you might meet at home first or at the facility.

After birth, lots of doulas stick around for an hour or two to help with first feeding and settling. They're also just a call or text away in those early postpartum days if questions pop up.

Save your doula's number and share it with your partner so either of you can reach out. When things get intense, your partner can make the call while you focus on laboring.

You're all set. Now just wait for the main event.